#meNOmore: An Open Letter to the Australian Music Industry
The #MeToo movement has been one of 2017’s biggest events to shake the entertainment world, exposing a multitude of despicable behaviors. The Australian music industry has now also had an important spotlight thrown on it with the release of #meNOmore: Open Letter to the Australian Music Industry.
Recently WAM released our own Fair Play Survey, currently looking for respondents to share their experiences and contribute to a comprehensive report investigating gender-based issues that those involved in local music careers face every day (please contribute here!), and now Seventh Street Media has shared a powerful statement highlighting some of the issues and mistreatment faced by some of your favourite artists and women working in the music industry.
WAM applauds the organisers and people who have contributed to it, which you can too by adding your name and stories here.
The letter read:
In recent weeks, as Hollywood carried the torch of Tarana Burke’s #MeToo movement and stories started breaking around the world, we found ourselves offering strength to our friends and colleagues who had their own stories to share – both publicly and in whispered circles. It’s become clear that the magnitude of #MeToo extends to our own shores and to our own industry.We are women who work in the Australian music industry. We are artists, musicians, managers, lawyers, booking agents, record label employees, publicists and more.
We all have our own stories, or know someone who does. We are not whingers or vibe-killers. We are passionate people dedicating our lives to music. In the face of uncountable discrimination, harassment, violence, and the general menace of sexist jargon, we have gritted our teeth and gotten on with the job. But today we say, no more.
Here are just some of the stories we’ve been able to share. They range from the tragic, to the horrific, to the every-day norm.
After winning awards at a national high school music competition I was recruited by an Australian musician to study with him. It turned out that I was to be groomed and sexually abused over many months. He told me that he selected girls for awards at the competition on the basis of their looks. The abuse triggered years of struggles with my mental health. I quit music years ago.
Working backstage for a huge international act, their tour manager looked me in the eyes and as he told the room there were only two types of women: bitches and sluts.
I have had managers of bands place their hands on my body when I was asking to interview the band, I’ve been groped multiple times in crowds. I’ve been told by members of a band that they wanted to “show me something” only to lead me into the bathroom and try to force themselves on me. I don’t even like going to gigs anymore because I have been groped in crowds so much and when I say “Why are you touching me” they gaslight me.
My first and only job interview in an attempt to get my foot in the door of the music industry was for a position at a booking agency. Before the interview began, the person in the current position asked me: ‘So before we start this interview, we’d like you to know that we’re looking for someone who is going to take this role seriously and not run off with one of our artists when they come in to town.’
My head has been pushed towards a colleague’s crotch and held there despite me saying no.
When I was 18, a particular frontman took advantage of me, in a way that opened my eyes to see that the music industry isn’t all that great. He was the frontman who after a show would force kiss you. He would text you saying come to this bar, gig, band and… he’d try having sex with you and when you’d say no, and he would say that “sex is just sex, it doesn’t matter”. I chose not to have sex with him, but I know a lot of 18 year old girls who would feel pressured into doing it. It was very manipulative. Just because you’re a frontman of a band, does not mean you are entitled to anything more than anyone else. You look after your fans and you be careful because you don’t know where they’ll end up working.
I am unable to reveal the details of my experience due to a confidentiality agreement which I was forced to sign.
One male manager would come into our offices to have meetings with my bosses, whilst sending me text messages about ‘meeting up in the supply closet to make out’ once the meeting was done. He constantly would put his arm around my waist at shows, occasionally pinch my bum at after parties and once snapchatted me a totally unsolicited nude picture of himself, comfortable in the fact we were ‘close’ and that his position of power with a band we represent would keep him safe.
I was at an industry conference dinner. It was the heads of companies in both not-for-profit and otherwise in the room. I, as the executive director of a company, sat next to a senior publisher who decided it was a great idea to grab the side of my butt cheek as I sat next to him. Then, in front of an entire table of other company directors he said, “Let me tell you how to talk to men, to get what you want”.
I’ve been a musician all my life and wanted to be a DJ for as long as I can remember. When I was 18 I was hired for odd jobs in a nightclub. I made it clear to the booking/event manager that I wanted to be a DJ and get involved in the scene as much as possible. One Friday night he called me and said he was on his way home and asked if I wanted to hang out and chat about the possibility of mentoring me. This guy is a pretty big deal in the local electronic music scene and I appreciated that he was going to take the time to do that so I said yes. He picked me up, but instead of going anywhere in particular we ended up in a deserted area pretty far from anywhere. He ended up forcing me to do sexual things to him. Afterwards, he told me that “he owes me one” and said if I ever wanted a gig then I could hit him up. He told me not to tell anyone and threatened that if I did, he would find out and make sure I never had a career as a musician. He then followed that by telling me that if I told anyone not only would I ruin my own life but I would ruin his too.
A well-known music manager who has a wife and kids would constantly insist that I have sex with him. When I finally stood my ground, he stopped working with me and stopped talking to me.
After meeting at a festival, I was sent an unsolicited dick pic by a CEO even after declining his offer to come back to his office that was “very dark, had booze and cocaine”.
I have been touched inappropriately, I have been made to stay at work functions until 3am to prove that I am ‘part of the culture’, I have been bullied by other females for receiving (unwanted) attention from senior male staff members, I’ve been made to feel like I’m strange for wearing long skirts or jeans at events, which I did to combat the hands that would creep up my skirt and the eyes that I would find on my legs. I have been laughed at for giving “an emotional response like a classic female” whilst giving feedback on music. I have been told that “women don’t get promoted in this industry, deal with it and be happy that you even have a job.”
Two years ago my band released a single that found some success. But the more success we received, the more one of my male band mates became bitter, jealous, manipulative and verbally abusive towards me. He mocked my female musical idols, saying women were only successful because of the men they surrounded themselves with. He said the same was true of me. That without him, I was worthless. He criticised everything I did – my singing, my songwriting, my bass playing, my guitar playing, my “vanity” i.e. my desire to perform. By the end of our first tour, I was completely broken. I ended up having a mental breakdown. I tried to stand up for myself but by the end I was so exhausted. I just took it. And worse of all, I started to believe it. I still struggle with this lack of confidence. My other band mate, my partner at the time, didn’t stand up for me. I don’t why.
Together we say #meNOmore.
Together, we give a voice to these issues and demand zero tolerance for sexual harassment, violence, objectification and sexist behaviours. There is no place for sexual entitlement in the workplace and in our industry. Change starts today.
We have listened to our friends. We have names of perpetrators. We know the same names that are repeated in unrelated circles. It saddens us that the people who hold us in fear and keep us silenced are people we work with, people who many of us have aspired to work under, and people who some of us have known as friends. These people need to be held accountable.
To the men who support and work alongside us – you are a vital part of this conversation. Be kind, listen and act if you know of something happening. Stand beside us and call out those who let us all down and who hurt our friends.
To everyone who has a story to share, we hear you and this letter is for you to know that you are not alone.
To future workers of the Australian music industry – this is for you. We will continue to fight together so that one day, we can all work safely in a respectful, inclusive and supportive industry.
Finally we want to thank our colleagues in the Swedish Music Industry who came forward with a powerful open letter that inspired us to do the same. In its honesty and precision, it relays an experience which is so often hard to pinpoint or qualify. We encourage you to read the full letter here.
#meNOmore is a group of women in the Australian Music Industry brought together to support our peers who have experienced sexual discrimination, harassment and violence. Our objective in 2018 is to create a safe haven for people to share their stories and seek support around sexual harassment in the music industry. We’ll be working with others in the Entertainment Industry to investigate claims of repeat offences and toxic workplaces. This will be done professionally and respectfully, and we will be taking our time to get this right. #meNOmore is contactable via firstname.lastname@example.org
None of the names alongside this letter are available for comment and we ask media to respect this. We will not be commenting on the stories contained in this letter. No means no – respect it!
#meNOmore aims to be an all-inclusive movement. We want to support our LGBTQQIA colleagues, as well as cisgender men who have been victims of sexual harassment. Whilst this letter has been initiated by women in the industry, please know we will work hard to create a support network which is available to everyone. We encourage you to sign this letter, get in touch with us, share your stories and your feedback and be part of the conversation. We’re listening.
If you or somebody you care for needs help, support services – Lifeline 131 114, Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636, Support Act on 1300 731 303 and for sexual harassment in the workplace – Fair Work Ombudsman at fairwork.gov.au.